In the aftermath of a divorce, a custody schedule of the most difficult decisions South Carolina parents must make. While many people assume that a 50/50 arrangement is the only option, that’s not the case.
Can we make our own custody agreement?
Contrary to what you may have heard, divorced parents can create their own child custody plans. While divorces often become contentious, keeping the court system out of your family is typically the best choice. You and your ex can submit a written custody agreement, which most courts will approve.
Keeping your children first
When creating your custody agreement, put yourself in your child’s shoes. Constantly bouncing between two homes isn’t easy, but it may be the best option for your child. Consider your child’s age, emotional maturity and other factors when creating a plan.
Think about the logistics
Depending on the circumstances of your divorce, you and your ex may continue to live close to one another. If you don’t, consider the logistics of sharing custody of your children. If your child attends school, you may need to make special considerations regarding pickups and drop-offs.
Should you involve your kids?
Depending on the age of your children, you may consider asking them for their input regarding your custody arrangement. Older children can typically provide valuable insight into the type of schedule that works best for them. However, your children’s mental and emotional maturity is an important factor in determining whether to ask for their input.
Every divorce is unique, and because of that, every custody arrangement is, too. Be open to adapting as you work with your ex to determine a schedule that works for your family.